I hope your week is off to a great start. I wanted to pop in to write about this idea/theory/philosophy I have been toiling with for awhile now…and that is: No One is Coming to Save You.
…Sounds super warm and uplifting, right? Well no, it doesn’t - but take a walk with me and I’ll show you that this is actually the message you have been waiting to hear.
NO ONE IS COMING TO SAVE YOU…okay, damn! I was already aware of that. Or was I? After years of talk therapy, life coaching, meditation, workshops, books - you name it, I would have balked at the idea that a part of me (no matter how small) was waiting, in some sense, to be “saved”. On the surface level, my conscious mind was not ready to see that I was in fact holding myself back from truly living in my greatest potential because a part of me was waiting for someone or something else to do it for me. To save me from having to really become the highest, best, and most divine version of myself - because that’s a little scary.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be?” - Marianne Williamson
Through a series of let’s just call it what it was - SETTLING - settling for less than I knew was my best in the dating category and in my work, I experienced some painful let downs. I had to get honest that I was the common denominator in these let downs. Could it be that I was settling…taking the cushy way out? Not demanding the greatness of myself and others? Because I was expecting something to come along and make it all okay? Because I was running from the great power I have within to rise up to the occasion and create the life I ACTUALLY dream of? YEP…all of the above.
I truly believe that a lot of us girls raised in the '80s and '90s were subconsciously embedded with the idea that a man, specifically, was coming to save us. Cue the VHS tapes of every Disney princess who was waiting for "Prince Charming".
I was waiting for something outside of me - a man to come in and save the day, copious amounts of cash money to start checking off my ‘wishlist’, and…well for me that’s mostly where the list stops (your list might be different).
But here is the thing I realized about being ‘saved’ - No(ONE) and No(THING) does it for you. The magic is yours to make on the inside.
Even if from the outside you are looking at that woman with the man who takes care of everything or the woman who makes tons of money and thinking “wow - she’s got it made” - do not be fooled (please…take it from me - all that glitters isn’t gold). No one is exempt from the process. Yes - all those things are GREAT, and we should all have whatever fills our hearts truest desires, but my point is that those things do not make you and they do not save you. I promise, that woman with the great man being taken care of still has to go on the journey of finding herself and what her own specific (independent) role is on this Earth - that woman making tons of money still has to understand the (why) behind it all.
Again - do not misunderstand: You deserve to have and be delighted by whatever specific desires you have in your heart. We just want to make sure that we are ATTRACTING real pure gold (not that gold plated stuff…).
And you attract the real pure gold by becoming completely and totally fulfilled and thrilled by your own self, your own purpose, and your own power.
So…The bad news? No One or Nothing is coming to save you.
The Good news? You get to save yourself, and no one or no(thing) can ever take that away from you.
If you would like to work together 1-on-1 to discover some of the pure gold already existing within you my Life Coaching Books are open for the next month: September Books
Dani Lee, Owner/Founder D. LEE